This blog is inspired by a memory of me elbowing a guy in the face!
It was after an amazing day snorkelling on the Great Barrier Reef, when I took a two month sabbatical early last year. I met an English couple and we were chatting before saying farewell, with the obligatory ‘let’s keep in touch via Facebook.’ I was stretching and he wasn’t looking where he was going, so I ended up accidentally elbowing him hard, right in the eye. His wife and I quickly asked if he was okay and he simply replied – ‘it’s happened now, so there’s not much we can do about it.’ It’s an attitude that’s floated in and out of my consciousness ever since.
I find it very helpful in the working environment, especially when sometimes a colleague, or superior will speak to you as if you are child with no English language skills. Many moons ago when I was still a pup in my 20s, I would have stomped out in a gigantic strop – ah the good old days. In my very early 20s I did depart several jobs in such a manner, yet that was a time of boom and you could literally walk into another job the next day.
Four years ago I was working in a job where the MD had no people skills, she even said in my interview, “I don’t like managing people.” Clearly my red flag radar was in the shop that day! However, I was very much into the melodrama back then. It was stressful at times, yet I rode out the storm with regular lunchtime bitching sessions with a colleague in the nearby green space. Bitching is something I should frown on. As an HR professional, we should rise above such behaviour, but to be fair, HR professionals are probably in the profession for the gossip and bitching aspect!
However, there does become a point when it starts to drain your energy and its time to make a change, which I did – after two years!
The reality is there are things that really matter in life and then there is our job. Many of us love our work, but if our numbers came up on the lottery, it’s unlikely we would still be doing what we are now. So, if you really think about it, no matter who may piss you off and make you feel demotivated, we always have a choice we can make with our feet when we walk out the door, but when it is right for us, not them. When you think about it that way, no matter how much you may be dreading it, Monday morning will be fine!