Something old, something new

The third Monday of the year (tomorrow) is supposedly the most depressing day of the year – Blue Monday!

Nobody has any money and your resolutions lay in the gutter, along with your dreams and hopes for the year. What a cheery thought – no wonder everyone is starting to look so miserable.

I have no idea where this sentiment comes from, however, if its creation was to act as a motivator for those who have fallen off the path, wagon or treadmill, then they have failed miserably. All this has succeeded in doing is reinforcing the message that it’s okay to fail, because look, there is a day which allows us to fail along with everyone else. Therefore I can’t feel bad about it, as I am not the only one. It’s another of those excuses like the old favourite – “you can only start a diet on a Monday.”

So what have you all got for your resolutions? Something huge and life changing? A change of lifestyle? Saying goodbye to a vice? The usual suspects, which is never a bad thing, as these are for the most part, things you have total control over. There is only one reason why you don’t succeed and that is because you don’t do it. There will always be an excuse and I have seen some people have terrible starts to the year with the loss of loved ones, but a bump in the road is not a derailment until next year.

I’ve been quiet on this blog for a few months, as after my last blog things came to a head again. I was having some difficulties at work with one individual and in the end I was pushed to my breaking point again. I chose to remove myself from that situation to not make it any worse. I’ve learnt that soldiering on is not the answer. I’m back at work now, but they are no longer there and I’m back in counselling – something I now see isn’t a short-term thing. This is something which I will keep for as long as I need it.

For me – I like to have two resolutions a year. Something which is new and exciting and something I am recycling. Both goals are within my control as well, they are not reliant on someone else. So I am going to finally publish my novel, and I will self-publish this, so there’s no excuses and I am going to lose the few dozen pounds I have added this past 18 months.

This blog has helped me through a difficult year or so. It’s been a why to get my thoughts out of my head and rationalise them. I hope they’ve helped others as well. I’m not sure when I’ll post again, if ever. I may use this site for other writing, such as short stories – another creative and therapeutic outlet.

I will sign off with one peace of advice – we all need a champion to motivate us to succeed. I always believed that was my mother and when we lost her, I thought that was it. In actual fact, we are our own champion – the loved ones we surround ourselves are our cheerleaders!

About Nick Lennon-Barrett

Originally from North-West, England, moving to London as an adult and carving out a career as an HR and L&D professional. The writing bug was always there as a child, yet it wasn't until my 30s that I finally did something about it. The joy of working in HR is that you're never short of character inspiration! I'm an enthusiast of both crime and comedy fiction so when I decided to write my first novel my aim was to combine these two genres tackling topical issues in a dark comedy murder mystery. This was the start of the DCI Fenton Murder Trilogy.
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